Reflection is a critical practice for leaders. It requires slowing down to listen to God, to others and to oneself. It fosters learning, stimulates growth, encourages celebration, calls for course corrections and renews focus and energy.
Our Arrow staff team pulled away recently for an off-site day to reflect back on 2012 and to refocus for the year ahead. The reflection exercise we did can provide you with a template for personal, family or team reflection as we end this year and start the next.
Here’s roughly what we did over the course of about sixty minutes:
1. Look Back and Remember – Reflection is often difficult because we simply can’t remember what’s happened over a longer timeframe. So, we tried to help recall some of the year’s events by starting at New Year’s Eve and privately reflecting on some questions to help bring back our memories. Here are some of the questions: What were you doing last New Year’s Eve? Who were you with? What were you hoping for the year ahead? What challenges were before you? What was going on in the lives of the people close to you?
Then, we slowly moved forward month by month. Markers like birthdays, anniversaries, vacations, and holidays act as prompters of other things that were going on. Simple questions help bring greater recall. Questions like: What was going on? What was important?
2. Intentional Reflection – With memories jogged, the next step is intentional prayerful reflection. We gave each person time and space to privately journal responses to the following questions about the past year:
- What’s been hardest?
- What surprised you most?
- What are you thankful for?
- Where did you fail?
- What’s been disappointing?
- Where have you been stretched? Where have you grown?
- What have you been encouraged by?
- What have you learned?
- Where do you see blessings from waiting? From struggle?
- Who or what have you invested in?
- How have you seen God at work? What have your learned about Him?
- What’s on God’s heart for you this next year?
3. Processing and Sharing – With lots of thoughts stirring, each person was invited to share their responses to their choice of any two of the questions. This helps people externalize their internal processing. It’s also can be a very special community building time.
Then, we reflected on whether there was any follow-up or next steps flowing from the reflection time. A note of thanks to be written? Forgiveness to be extended or sought? New priorities to be established?
4. Prayer – Worshipful prayers of thanksgiving and prayers for the journey ahead concluded this reflection time.
In the busyness of life and this special season, I encourage you to set aside even sixty minutes for a time of reflection. Whether done individually, as a family, or as a team, you will be richer for investing the time in the process.
To the Point,
P.S. Most ministry leaders and pastors are in overdrive in the lead-up to Christmas. They are preparing for special services and outreach events, reaching out to care for the hurting and under-resourced, ministering to others while trying to be present for their families, raising needed funds for future ministry, and the list goes on. Please seek out and take opportunity to pray for, encourage and support these servant-leaders where you can!